G. ... you summed up the last two years of my life in two paragraphs.
For me, retirement felt like going from "parents" with no warmth and lots of demand, to your worst-case scenario of no warmth and very little demand. Your analogy makes a surprising amount of sense from that perspective.
A men's group isn't a bad idea, now that you mention it. 8^P
I feel like I hijacked your post about parenting - my apologies. :)
I like your assessment across the board here. My kids are 21 and 17, so I'm starting to see some of the results of our attempts to balance between warmth and demand. Unconditional love and warmth are definitely keys to being a decent parent, but I think we may have served them better if we had been a bit more demanding when they were younger.
Your thought about being kinder to ourselves stands out to me as well. Most of us can probably benefit from a little more self-respect.
G. ... you summed up the last two years of my life in two paragraphs.
For me, retirement felt like going from "parents" with no warmth and lots of demand, to your worst-case scenario of no warmth and very little demand. Your analogy makes a surprising amount of sense from that perspective.
Thanks for your insight. :)
Terry, I'm very sorry that you're dealing with the “worst-case scenario”.
My heart goes out to you man. That really really sucks.
I hope you're receiving A LOT of love in some form in your life from people you care about.
If not, I would recommend seeking therapy or a men's support group.
It’s really tough to deal with this kind of stuff alone.
Thanks, G.
A men's group isn't a bad idea, now that you mention it. 8^P
I feel like I hijacked your post about parenting - my apologies. :)
I like your assessment across the board here. My kids are 21 and 17, so I'm starting to see some of the results of our attempts to balance between warmth and demand. Unconditional love and warmth are definitely keys to being a decent parent, but I think we may have served them better if we had been a bit more demanding when they were younger.
Your thought about being kinder to ourselves stands out to me as well. Most of us can probably benefit from a little more self-respect.